Cooking as an act of Self-Love

Cooking for ourselves and practising conscious eating are perhaps the most primal and important acts of self love.
We build a deep sense of trust in ourselves, when we take time to nurture our bodies by making our own food.
I believe that a potent message of worth and value is reinforced into the unconscious mind when we take time to nurture ourselves.
Food and shelter are our most basic acts of survival.
When we practice self-care by maintaining a clean (sattvic), safe, inviting home and cooking for ourselves, we send a powerful message to your psyche that we are worthy and important.
Love is an action verb.
Actions speak louder than words. Self love through food is connected to the root chakra, or first chakra (if you are familiar with the yoga language), which governs the first stage of emotional and psychological development.
The root chakra (mulhadhara) is connected to physical identity, physical body, grounding, our relationship to the mother and sense of feeling safe and secure in the world.
I think that eating out all the time, rushing through, skipping meals, watching TV during dinner sends a message that we are not worth the time and effort to slow down, nourish, nurture and listen to our body`s deepest needs.
Ayurveda medicine, recommends massaging your food with your bare hands as much as possible and focusing on positive thoughts while you cook.
I, personally, like to play music while I`m cooking. I believe that all these good vibes makes the food taste better and nourishes myself and my family with all the good stuff.
I believe that is important to take time to eat your meal in a clean environment, at the table, sitting down, and mindfully savour each bite. It can be the only time of the day that you get to spend quality time with family, friends or yourself. Make it special!
Unfortunately, cooking is a tradition that is getting lost, more and more people have no clue from where to start. Very understandable, as things are so convenient these days.
Just know, if you are starting now, cooking is like learning any other skill, improves with time and effort. Keep persistent!

The way we eat says a lot about how we feel about ourselves and our food. It’s no wonder that many of us have a complicated relationship with food. Check my own complicated journey Binge Eating Disorder – Personal Story

We’re inundated with advertisements depicting impossible bodies and being told that the only way to obtain our “dream bodies” (the body society tell us we should have) is to get on a restrictive diet or becoming obsessed with all the fitness fad. Unfortunately, most of us, grow up to think there’s something wrong with us and our natural bodies. Note that, if you have been stressing around food and yo-yo dieting for your whole life, changes are that you are not on your healthy body anymore, but you can always get back to it. Check Non-dieting, body acceptance and HAES, what`s all that about?

Reality is, most of us know how to live healthily: eat veg and exercise regularly, you don`t need a nutritionist to tell you that, ironically. Of course that will look different for each of us and just because it’s simple, doesn’t mean it’s easy. The truth is, we won`t find the answers in crash diets or at the bottom of a bag of potato crisps.

It turns out that self-love is at the root of a healthy diet. When we take better care of ourselves, we’re less likely to binge eat (Alleluia!).

It makes sense, that`s why they call it emotional eating for a reason, if our emotions are relatively balanced, we probably won’t engage in any kind of self damaging behaviour.

But remember, if we’re burnt out or not sleeping well, we’re more likely to reach for a bag of cookies to soothe our frazzled minds.

Is it easy?

Of course not; binge eating can leave us feeling sick and guilty. It can feel like an impossible cycle to break. But, there is a way out, start with Mindful & Intuitive Eating

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Mindful & Intuitive Eating

Eat when you are hungry, drink when you are thirsty, sleep when you are tired. – Taoist adage.

Mindful & Intuitive Eating is sometimes defined as simply eating “whatever you want, whenever you want.” Whilst this description is partly true, the authentic process is much more refined and ‘awake’ than this catch phrase might look at first.

The simple tools of tuning into our bodies and fully experiencing each bite of food have the power to resolve many questions about food choices and diet. However, after a long period of ignoring our body’s signals, getting back in touch with them can take a little bit of work – this is where working with a skilled therapist can help.

It’s hard to listen to the body when a symphony of opposing authorities on diet are shouting their new findings and guaranteed weight loss methods from the rooftops, but it IS possible and the benefits to your physical and psychological health are considerable.


Intuitive Eating can also be referred to as Non-DietingMindful Eatingand Attuned Eating. These eating philosophies are a class of eating behaviours guided primarily by awareness of and agreement with internal body cues of hunger and satiety. Instead of fighting your body, mindful & intuitive eating guides you to connect with and ultimately befriend your body.


Mindful and Intuitive Eating are powerful strategies for breaking the trap of yo-yo dieting, compulsive eating and releasing ingrained emotional eating patterns.

Weight-control diets often teach us to disconnect from and distrust our body. Diets encourage us to categorise foods, to be fearful of them, to measure and control. Dieting can turn eating into an entirely cognitive process devoid of body signals and laden with guilt and power trips. Eating this way can be extremely frustrating, anxiety provoking and typically leads to yo-yo weight cycling. Intuitive Eating is a valuable and evidence-based alternative to dieting, more conducive to our physical and mental health.


There is no guarantee of weight loss or gain when you adopt a mindful eating practice. The focus of this practice is attunement, acceptance, health and well-being. However, if you have been eating out of attunement, is very much likely that you are out of your healthy body weight.

Authentic Intuitive and Mindful Eating behaviours promote improvements to health and well-being that include physical, emotional and mental aspects. These improvements can occur irrespective of changes to body weight (assuming you are not significantly underweight).

Intuitive Eating respects that body weight is highly individual and maintains that good health can be sustained outside of standardised body weight tables when our behaviours are healthy. If you are interested in these ideas you can click here to read more about Health At Every Size HAES.®


Whilst we can lose the ability to eat in tune with our body through dieting, the great news is that these skills can be re-learned in teachable steps. This ‘re-learning’ process can sometimes require a period of structured eating, and this is particularly true if your eating is highly restrictive or you are prone to very regular binge. Everyone’s journey to reconnecting to their body and eating with awareness is different.

Experimentation, with the guidance of professional counselling can assist you to reinstate a sense of eating competence that is sustainable, flexible and authentic.

Get in touch here, and let`s work together


There are three core skills of intuitive and mindful eating:

  1. Being able to pay attention, and be fully present to what we are doing and experiencing
  2. Being able to sense our body’s signals, accept our body’s signals and respond to these signals with permission, compassion and wisdom
  3. Being able to practice 1 & 2 realistically and with flexibility as often as possible

The only reliable authority, in the end, is your own body.